Finding Yourself When You’re In A Funk

A few weeks ago, Emily wrote about her tips for getting out of a funk. In it, she provided some actionable items that have helped her change her mindset and kick her motivation into gear.

Admittedly, I have found myself in a funk these last few weeks and turning to Emily’s advice for inspiration. However, no matter what I seemed to do I was still unable to get myself to sit down and write a new blog post. Don’t get me wrong, I have tried many times. Each time almost reaching completion only to realize that I wasn’t happy with it.

When I finally turned to AJ about my current writer’s block, he was surprised. He asked me how that was possible with everything that has been going on lately… wouldn’t my current situation be a great topic to discuss?

The “current situation” that he is referring to is very personal and not something that I feel is necessary to spread over the internet. The only thing to know is that these last few weeks have been tough and full of emotion.

When thinking about these past few weeks, I realized that I still really struggle with keeping a clear mind in emotional situations. Rather than finding a way to change my mindset (as Emily discussed), I retreat into an emotional shell.

And it’s very hard to write meaningful blog posts when you’re hiding in a shell.

But then I thought about all of the reasons that Emily & I started this blog… and it became clear that getting myself to write a post was what I really needed to pull myself out of this funk.  So I continued to write and write and write (and write) until I started to find my voice again.

Voila! Here we are.

Given everything going on, I felt it was an appropriate week for me to add some additional items to Emily’s list. There are four main things that have helped me find myself these last few weeks:

  1. Acknowledging my struggle – one of the most important things about being in a funk is being able to recognize that you are in fact in a funk. They say the first step is acceptance, right? So when you feel off or know that you are not acting like yourself, take a moment to acknowledge that. The sooner that you can admit that something is going on, the sooner that you can start taking actionable steps to fix it.
  2. Not allowing myself to isolate – for me, this is my “emotional shell.” If you are anything like me, sometimes it may seem easier to just shut off or try to ignore things that are deeply bothering you. The more that we try to run from or avoid our problems, the most that they will fester. And I can say from experience that this always seems to cause more harm than good in the end.
  3. Speaking up – this has been the hardest one for me. I have found that many times the reason that I can’t get out of my funk is that I have not directly addressed what triggered it in the first place. I know it is easier said than done but do not be afraid to talk to others about what is going on with you. Part of being honest with yourself includes being honest with others around you. Whether you are asking for help or addressing an issue that’s been bothering you, start speaking up and putting your truth out there.
  4. Keep moving forward – like I said, this post took me about three weeks to finally write. It may not be my best but it is progress. We are all going to experience funks in one way or another – be it a bad day or a bad year – so it is very important to always remember that tomorrow is a new day and a chance for a fresh start. Do not beat yourself down if it takes time… just know that you are trying and that is all that matters.

When it comes down to it, a funk is just a mindset. As Emily said in her original post, “Sometimes it only takes one thing to completely change your mood.” By continuing to focus on creating a better mindset every single day, you are slowing pulling yourself out of your funk a little at a time. Be gentle on yourself and remember that it is okay to not always be okay. And although we hope that our own tips are helpful, no one knows you better than you know yourself.

Find what strategies work best for you and eventually, you will begin to find yourself again. Just like I did.

 

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